Teaching
the values
of heroes who compassionately
crusaded for peace
using excellence, dignity, and endurance as their weapons
of choice
6752 Bancroft St. PO Box 642 Hiram, Ohio 44234-0642
330-569-4912
Keynote Speeches, Seminars, and Workshops in Leadership and Conflict
Resolution
Based on the values, conflict-resolution, and
problem-solving abilities of world heroes of peace
A Value System for
Leadership Derived from Heroes of Peace
Inspired by the Tuskegee Airmen’s Legacy
Developed
by
Roger F. Cram
and Carol A. Ruggie from their research into how leaders of peace resolved
problems and conflict.
Copyrighted ©
by Roger F. Cram July 2005, February 2006, March 2008, January
2010 with all rights
reserved.
Magnificent people performing magnificently, while at their best while under a crisis - what values guided their remarkable problem-solving, conflict resolution, and behavior choices?
14 Attributes with Hero Quotations
Attributes with quotations from my selected heroes of peace1. (Behavior) Govern yourself by never allowing another’s behavior to negatively influence your conduct. Your actions are always your responsibility; they are never another’s fault. Determine your behavior from your vales, from the kind of person you want to be - never from how others behave toward you.
Do not
allow your anger to control your reason, but rather your reason to
control your anger.
I have
learned through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve
my anger, and as heat conserved is transmitted into energy, even so
our anger controlled can be transmitted into a power that can move
the world.
Each one has to find his peace from
within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside
circumstances.
A
strong nation, like a strong person, can afford to be gentle, firm,
thoughtful, and restrained. It can afford to extend a helping hand
to others. It's a weak nation, like a weak person, that must behave
with bluster and boasting and rashness and other signs of
insecurity.
Each day is a continued battle for
our control; not for our control over others, but for control of our
response to them.
If a man
is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as
Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare
wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of
heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived …
We have the power to guide and
encourage what is meant to be.
I think one's feelings waste
themselves in words; they ought all to be distilled into actions
which bring results.
Let everyone regulate his conduct . . . by
the golden rule of doing to others as in similar circumstances
we would have them do to us, and the path of duty will be clear
before him.
2.
(Change)
Encourage positive change, not through criticism, but through your
continuous achievements of excellence for all to witness. When
criticized by others, When we
are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to
change ourselves.
We must be the change you wish to
see in the world.
An
ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.
We have learned that change cannot
come through war. War is not a feasible tool to use in fighting
against the oppression we face. War has caused more problems. We
cannot embrace that path.
Example is not the main thing in
influencing others, it is the only thing.
Do
something wonderful, people may imitate it.
We must
reinforce argument with results.
Do what
you feel in your heart to be right. You'll be criticized anyway.
|
There is nothing in the world, I venture to say, that would
so effectively help one to survive even the worst conditions
as the knowledge that
Challenging the meaning of life is the truest expression of
the state of being human.
|
No one
can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
You are
never strong enough that you don't need help.
Cesar Chavez
As human
beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the
world -- that is the myth of the atomic age -- as in being able to
remake ourselves.
Mahatma Gandhi
The ultimate test of a man is not
where he stands in moments of comfort and moments of convenience,
but where he stands in moments of challenge and moments of
controversy.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon
way.
Booker T. Washington
I knew someone had to take the first
step and I made up my mind not to move.
Rosa Parks
Live as if you were living a second
time, and as though you had acted wrongly the first time.
Viktor E.
Frankl
Aspire not to have more but to be more.
Archbishop Oscar
Romero
It is very important to know who you are. To make decisions. To
show who you are.
Malala Yousafzai
6.
(Character)
Without regard to consequences, courageously fulfill the obligations
of being human by respecting all life, defending the righteous,
promoting
peace, inspiring compassion, spreading joy, and sharing
your assets*
with those less fortunate.
As a human being, possessing
education, talent, and recourses obligates you to help others less
fortunate.
Arthur Saunders – Tuskegee Airmen
Everything can be taken from a
man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Viktor E. Frankl
The older
I get, the greater power I seem to have to help the world; I am like
a snowball -- the further I am rolled the more I gain.
Susan B. Anthony
When will our consciences grow so
tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge
it?
Eleanor Roosevelt
Helping
people in need is a good and essential part of my life, a kind of
destiny.
Princess of Wales Diana
I was
determined to achieve the total freedom that our history lessons
taught us we were entitled to, no matter what the sacrifice.
Rosa Parks
One thing
I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those
who will have sought and found how to serve.
Albert Schweitzer
Whoever
is spared personal pain must feel himself called to help in
diminishing the pain of others. We must all carry our share of the
misery which lies upon the world.
Albert Schweitzer
The best way to find yourself is to
lose yourself in the service of others.
Mahatma Gandhi.
Non-violence…it is not a weapon of the weak. It is a
weapon of the strongest and bravest.
Mahatma Gandhi
How far you go in life depends on
you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged,
sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the
strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.
George Washington Carver
If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality. DesmondTutu
...instead of giving a rifle to
somebody, build a school; instead of giving a rifle, build a
community with adequate services. Instead of giving a rifle, develop
an educational system that is not about conflict and violence, but
one that promotes respect for values, for life, and respect for
one's elders. This requires a huge investment. Yet if we can invest
in a different vision of peaceful coexistence, I think we can change
the world, because every problem has a nonviolent answer.
Rigoberta Menchu
Contrary
to what certain governments say, human rights are universal.
Arbitrary detention, torture and discrimination hurt the human
dignity of anybody, whatever his or her country of origin, religion,
descent, or any other ground.
Shirin Ebadi
In a few decades, the relationship between the environment, resources, and conflict may seem almost as obvious as the connection we see today between human rights, democracy, and peace.
Wangari Maathai
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
Martin Luther King Jr
Character is power.
Booker T. Washington
During this journey of hopes and despairs, joys and sorrows, dreams and realities, I’m accompanied by people who believe in our fight...
Sonia Pierre
Not
taking sides in concerns of human misery and injustice is taking a
side. Not making a decision concerning action
against human misery and injustice is making a decision. No one may
remain neutral in such circumstances.
Roger F. Cram
It's stasis that kills you off in the end,
not ambition.
Bono
I speak not for myself but for those without voice... those who
have fought for their rights... their right to live in peace, their
right to be treated with dignity, their right to equality of
opportunity, their right to be educated.
Malala Yousafzai
Reputation is the shadow. Character is the tree.
Abraham Lincoln
7. (Courage) Honor and respect fear, for it alone offers you an opportunity to demonstrate courage.
I learned that courage was not the
absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he
who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Nelson Mandel
There would be nothing to frighten
you if you refused to be afraid.
Mahatma Gandhi.
Forgiveness is a virtue of the
brave.
Mahatma Gandhi.
You gain
strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you
really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to
yourself, "I live through this horror. I can take the next thing
that comes along." . . . You must do the things you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt
I believe that anyone can conquer
fear by doing the things he fears to do.
Eleanor Roosevelt
The purpose of life, after all, is
to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly
and without fear for newer and richer experiences.
Eleanor Roosevelt
I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up,
this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.
Rosa Parks
Any
intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more
violent. It takes a touch of genius, and a lot of courage, to move
in the opposite direction.
Albert Einstein
The only battles we will ever fight
are the ones inside us.
Native American – Iroquois
Tribe
If you fear making anyone
mad, then you ultimately probe for the lowest common denominator of
human achievement.
Jimmy Carter
Silence in the face
of injustice is complicity with the oppressor.
Ginetta Sagan
I say I am stronger than fear.
Malala Yousafzai
8.
(Perseverance) Never give up. Most perceived
failures are not failures at all, but instead successfully completed
stepping stones toward a goal. The only
time you can fail is if you
quit purusing your goals.
A man is but the product of his
thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.
Mahatma Gandhi.
The difference between what we do
and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the
world's problems.
Mahatma Gandhi
You must do the thing you think you
cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Failure is impossible.
Susan B. Anthony
I think
and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is
false. The hundredth time I am right.
Albert Einstein
The
Tuskegee Airmen had an eleventh commandment, “We will not quit, no
matter what!”
Col. Herbert Carter, Original
Tuskegee Airmen
The only time we can fail is if we
quit. Most perceived failures are only stepping stones being small
problems encountered along the path to a goal. Obstacles are
opportunities for growth, therefore, encourage and embrace them.
Arthur Saunders – Tuskegee Airman
The probability that we may fail in
struggle ought not to deter us from the support of a cause we
believe to be just.
Abraham Lincoln
99% of the failures come from people
who have the habit of making excuses.
George Washington Carve
You can
do what you have to do, and sometimes you can do it even better than
you think you can.
Jimmy Carter
…to my adversaries, from the purist intellectuals who search in the most profound… arguments to justify their discriminatory attitude…to the most primal ones who cannot hide their hatred and rancor. Their arguments and constant anger do not cause us to wane. On the
contrary, they inspire and fortify us, by showing us the way that is opposite to them, with no hatred or rancor, showing us what we should do.
Sonia PierreSo enormous, so dreadful, so irremediable did the Trade's (slave trade) wickedness appear that my own mind was completely made up for Abolition. Let the consequences be what they would, I from this time determined that I would never rest until I had effected its abolition.
William WilberforceMy heroes are the ones who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them.
Bono
9.
(Trust) Honor all
commitments and obligations to everyone regardless of their stature.
Your pledge should be as meaningful to a king as to a beggar, for
the value of a commitment is determined from its source, not to whom
it is directed.
You must not lose faith (trust) in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.
Mahatma GandhiFew things can help an individual more than to place responsibility on him, and to let him know that you trust him.
Booker T. WashingtonTrusting only the trustworthy in not trusting at all.
Carol A. RuggieIf they kill me, I shall arise in the Salvadoran people.
Archbishop Oscar Romero
10. (Conflict) While engaging your adversaries, always maintain their dignity. This is the only road to lasting peace.
Unless
both sides win, no agreement can be permanent.
Jimmy Carter
Am I not destroying my enemies when
I make friends of them?
Abraham Lincoln
I do not like than man. I must get to know
him better.
Abraham Lincoln
Man must
evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge,
aggression, and retaliation.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
The method of nonviolence seeks not
to humiliate and not to defeat the oppressor, but it seeks to win
his friendship and his understanding. And thereby and therefore the
aftermath of this method is reconciliation.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
An eye for eye only ends up making
the whole world blind.
Mahatma Gandhi
The weak
can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Mahatma Gandhi
I object to violence because when it
appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is
permanent.
Mahatma Gandhi
Courtesy
towards opponents and eagerness to understand their view-point is
the ABC of non-violence.
Mahatma Gandhi
It has always been a mystery to me
how men can feel themselves honoured by the humiliation of their
fellow beings.
Mahatma Gandhi
I think that nonviolence is one way
of saying that there are other ways to solve problems, not only
through weapons and war. Nonviolence also means the recognition that
the person on one side of the trench and the person on the other
side of the trench are both human beings, with the same faculties.
At some point they have to begin to understand one another.
Rigoberta Menchu
You
cannot prepare for war and peace at the same time.
Albert Einstein
Peace cannot be achieved through
violence, it can only be attained through understanding.
Albert Einstein
If you want to make peace with your
enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your
partner.
Nelson Mandela
In the clashes
between ignorance and intelligence, ignorance is generally the
aggressor.
Paul Harris
To be one, to
be united is a great thing. But to respect the right to be different
is maybe even greater.
Bono
11.
(Compassion) Give simply
to increase the amount of goodness in the world - often without
recognition or reward. Give more to others than you receive
in
return, and carefully sustain this inequity, with humility, as a
distinctive characteristic of your leadership.
The more one forgets himself - by giving himself to a cause to serve
or another person to love - the more human he is.
Viktor E. Frankl
The world cares very little about what a man or woman knows; it is what a man or woman is able to do that counts.
Booker T. Washington
Only a life lived in the service to others is worth living.
Albert Einstein
Don't worry
when you are not recognized, but strive to be worthy of recognition.
Abraham Lincoln
Give of yourself to increase the amount
of goodness in the world, not to received recognition from others for
your deeds.
Hal “Hooper” Reichle
There should
be less talk; a preaching point is not a meeting point. What do you do
then? Take a broom and clean someone's house. That says enough.
Mother Teresa
Everybody can be great, because anybody
can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't
have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart
full of grace. A soul generated by love.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
I have always
held firmly to the thought that each one of us can do a little to bring
some portion of misery to an end.
Albert Schweitzer
A man is ethical only when life, as such,
is sacred to him, that of plants and animals as that of his fellow men,
and when he devotes himself helpfully to all life that is in need of
help.
Albert Schweitzer
Until he
extends his circle of compassion to all living things, man will not find
peace.
Albert Schweitzer
Compassion, in
which all ethics must take root, can only attain its full breadth and
depth if it embraces all living creatures and does not limit itself to
mankind.
Albert Schweitzer
I am prepared
to die, but there is no cause for which I am prepared to kill.
Mahatma Gandhi
One man cannot hold
another man down in the ditch without remaining down in the ditch with
him.
Booker T. Washington
Like music and
art, love of nature is a common language that can transcend political or
social boundaries.
Jimmy Carter
If to
be feelingly alive to the sufferings of my fellow-creatures is to be a
fanatic, I am one of the most incurable fanatics ever permitted to be at
large.
William Wilberforce
...We must seek Him
among the undernourished children who have gone to bed at night with
nothing to eat, among the poor newsboys who will sleep covered with
newspapers in doorways.
Archbishop Oscar Romero
For me, an area of moral clarity is: you're in front of someone who's
suffering and you have the tools at your disposal to alleviate that
suffering or even eradicate it, and you act.
Paul Farmer
If what you accomplished during your previous hour only benefited you,
you shouldn't have done it. If what you intend to accomplish during
your next hour only benefits you, don't do it…
Gilbert Doho
The more one forgets himself - by giving
himself to a cause to serve or another person to love - the more human
he is.
Viktor E. Frankl
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love
can do that.
Martin
Luther King Jr.
12.
(Judging) Observe, but never
judge. Seek out the differences in others and then celebrate them, for
such diversity** is the true potpourri of humanity and
will enrich you with the knowledge
and wisdom of the entire human experience.
The greatest
problem in the world today is intolerance. Everyone is so intolerant of
each other.
Princess of Wales Diana
An optimist
is a person who sees a green light everywhere, while a pessimist sees
only the red stoplight. . . The truly wise person is color-blind.
Albert Schweitzer
Where, under our
Declaration of Independence, does
the Saxon man get his power to deprive all women and Negroes of their
unalienable rights?
Susan B. Anthony
We become not a melting pot but a beautiful mosaic. Different people,
different beliefs, different yearnings, different hopes, different
dreams.
Jimmy Carter
...when we allow one group of people to
look down upon another, then we may for a short time bring hardship on
some particular group of people, but the real hardship and the real
wrong is done to democracy and to our nation as a whole. We are then
breeding people who cannot live under a democratic form of government
but must be controlled by force. We have but to look out into the world
to see how easy it is to be come stultified, to accept without protest
wrongs done to others, and to shift the burden of decision and
responsibility for an y action onto some vague thing called a government
or some individual called a leader.
Eleanor Roosevelt
The most
underutilized and ignored assets and the most valuable assets of any
organization are the same - the diversity* of its people.
Roger F. Cram
I shall never
permit myself to stoop so low as to hate any man.
Booker T. Washington
Freedom is
not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err. It passes my
comprehension how human beings, be they ever so experienced and able,
can delight in depriving other human beings of that precious right.
Mahatma Gandhi
I look to a
day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by
the content of their character.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Whoever
undertakes to set himself up as judge in the field of truth and
knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the Gods.
Albert Einstein
If you judge
people, you have no time to love them.
Mother Theresa.
Preservation
of one's own culture does not require contempt or disrespect for other
cultures.
Cesar Chavez
To attempt to superimpose its views through the exercise of force, is
seldom the part of intelligence; it is frequently the part of ignorance.
Paul Harris
When an individual, a sect, a clique or a nation
hates and despises another individual, sect, clique or nation, he or
they simply do not know the objects of their hatred. Ignorance is at the
bottom of it.
Paul Harris
The less you know, the more you believe.
Bono
13.
(Recognition) Serve
enthusiastically as a spokesperson for the accomplishments and concerns
of others. Attentive leaders crusade for the injustices,
issues, ideas,
and achievements of those less able to speak for themselves and give
ample recognition for their origin.
There are two ways of exerting one's
strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up.
Booker T. Washington
If you want
to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.
Booker T. Washington
Everyone
needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back.
Princess of Wales Diana
I’ve always thought that people need to
feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to
them, to provide some light along the way.
Princess of Wales Diana
We should be too big to take offense and
too noble to give it.
Abraham Lincoln
We can work together for a better world
with men and women of goodwill, those who radiate the intrinsic goodness
of humankind. To do so effectively, the world needs a global ethic with
values which give meaning to life experiences and, more than religious
institutions and dogmas, sustain the non-material dimension of humanity.
Mankind's universal values of love, compassion, solidarity, caring and
tolerance should form the basis for this global ethic which should
permeate culture, politics, trade, religion and philosophy...
Wangari
Maathai
We may never see the end results, but that is the difference between
the master builder and the worker. We are workers, not master builders,
ministers, not messiahs. We are prophets of a future not our own.
Archbishop Oscar Romero
Segregation never brought anyone anything except
trouble.
Paul Harris
One's nativity is not of his own choosing, but
whatever it may be, it is entitled to respect; and all nations have
honorable place in the world's family.
Paul Harris
When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful.
Malala Yousafzai
14.
(Values) Uphold this Value System,
especially under adverse conditions, not to please someone else, but to
honor the unfaltering principles within you, to
validate your character
as the type of person you want to be, and to gradually realize the full
potential of being human.
Ethics, too,
are nothing but reverence for life. That is what gives me the
fundamental principle of morality, namely, that good consists in
maintaining, promoting, and enhancing life, and that destroying,
injuring, and limiting life are evil.
Albert Schweitzer
Try not to
become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.
Albert Einstein
A man is the
sum of his actions, of what he has done, of what he can do, Nothing
else.
Mahatma Gandhi.
One man cannot do right in one
department of life whilst he is occupied in doing wrong in any other
department. Life is one indivisible whole.
Mahatma Gandhi.
In matters of conscience, the Law of
Majority has no place.
Mahatma Gandhi
Being constantly in the public eye
gives me a special responsibility, particularly that of using the impact
of photographs to transmit a message, to sensitize the word to an
important cause, to defend certain values.
Princess of Wales Diana
There is a perpetual battle in your
heart between Good and Evil. Which one will win this conflict? The one
you feed.
Native
American Indian, Wampanoag Tribe
The less one knows, the more he thinks he
knows, and the more willing he is to employ any and all measures to
enforce his views upon others.
Paul Harris
I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do,
because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.
Susan B. Anthony
* assets = One’s strength, capacity to help, capacity to protect, capacity to defend, and capacity to rescue. One’s abilities, education, talents, insight, wisdom, labor, knowledge, wealth, belongings, property, and any similar thing that can be utilized to bring benefit to another. (Arthur Saunders, Tuskegee Airmen)
**diversity = one’s abilities, interests, talents, experiences, beliefs, customs, culture, points-of-view, rituals, influences, networks, assets, and any beneficial characteristic distinguishing one person from another.